Losing a loved one can be emotionally overwhelming. Despite the unsettling situation and the potential difficulty in concentrating, there are daily life issues that need to be dealt with. The following Guide is designed to provide a brief overview of many of them and it is understood that not all will be relevant. Hopefully it will be helpful and may we only share in future Smachot – שמחות – Happy events.
If sitting Shiva is relevant, speak to your Rabbi or Va’ad Beit Knesset – וועד בית כנסת – Synagogue Administrative Committee or the local Moetza Datit (often part of the municipality) to see what help you can get for setting up a Beit Avel – בית אבל – Shiva house, with a Moda’at Evel – מודעת אבל – Death Announcement to hang up around the community, Sefer Torah, Aron Kodesh, Siddurim, low chair(s) for the mourner(s) meals etc.
Customs regarding setting up a Matzeva – מצבה – Tombstone vary, but in Israel it is often done at the end the initial Shloshim – שלושים – Thirty (30) day mourning period. Usually, your Moetza Datit or the Chevra Kadisha or the cemetery office can recommend companies that work with the cemetery. Friends who have already gone through the process can help as well.
Verify that Kupat Cholim – קופת חולים – medical coverage for the deceased was canceled. Bituach Leumi is supposed to inform them but if they haven’t, arrange it yourself.
If relevant, return all medical equipment borrowed from places like Yad Sarah – יד שרה etc.
If there was a caregiver, contact their agency to arrange final payment and any severance, and remember to cancel or transfer the caregiver’s medical insurance policy and payments to them.
Cancel any mobile phone accounts in the deceased’s name.
Regarding updating ownership of joint assets such as a home, car or bank account etc. it is advisable to consult with a lawyer to determine what needs to be done to update the status.
Close down or transfer all email, social media and online accounts if necessary.